“LOVE”...

What is Love?

Love is a temporary madness. Love is giving gifts, Love is meeting every day, or Love is spending time together. No, No, No...

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident:

“Love is Patience, Love is Kind.

It does not Envy, it does not Boast.

It’s not proud, it’s not rude.

It’s not self-seeking, it’s not angered.

It keeps no record of Wrong”

Explanation:

            As it says,

      A. Love is being patient - when you are in love you have to have lot of patience to get the acceptance of the person you love, even if you have to change a person according to you or for a good thing it won’t happen overnight. Patience has to be there in every relationship. 

      B. Love is being kind & not rude- you can’t be harsh in love, because you love that person. If you are rude with the person you love, them he/she might bear with this attitude of yours for some time, but after that you might lose him/her. 

      C. Love doesn't boast- they is no showing off in love, if you love someone; then love truly from your heart. Some believe in showing how much they love the other person and some don’t want to show this love. By showing off how much you love the other person, does not increase the intensity of your love.

      D. Love is not self seeking- in love there is no ego, you should not be selfish, instead you should always think for your partner and try to see what the partner is wanting.

      E. Love is not being angry- it is said that the more you fight, the more your love grows strong, but not always. In fact, this anger should be kept within you, or else this may become the cause of many break ups. Anger is one of the many enemies of love.

      F. Love does not keep records of wrong-doings:  In love you should not keep records of the mistakes done by your partner. Mistakes are bound to happen, by either of the partners, but you should learn to forgive and forget him/her- that’s why pencils have erasers.

     "IT IS RIGHTLY SAID THAT LOVE IS BLIND, BUT THEN MARRIAGE IS A EYE-OPENER  - THOUGH TOO LATE" J

We all have some perceptions and assumptions of our own lives and the love that we have or don’t have. Some people, who don’t believe in love, don’t know what actually love is and don’t have the experience of loving someone so whole heartedly that you can do anything and everything for them. For them it’s just a waste of time. In fact, falling in love is the most amazing thing that can happen to anyone. Love is care, Love is concern, and the person who loves only can experience and enjoy the pain and the fear of losing your loved ones. It does not only include your life partner, but also your MOM-DAD, your brother, your family. And the love for our family is different as compared to that of your life partner; because the way in which your family loves you, forgives all your mistakes and accepts the way you are, the same way is never possible with your life partner; maybe, just maybe in some rare cases, but not always...

It is always said,

“IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE LET IT GO FREE.

  IF IT COMES BACK TO YOU, IT’S YOURS.

  IF IT DOES NOT, THEN IT NEVER MEANT FOR YOU.”

This means you have to set your love free and learn to love without any conditions, because if there are conditions in your love, then it’s not true LOVE, but a selfish, self-centred love with some hidden motives. You should accept the person as he/she is and do not try to change that person. In a relation there should be commitment towards each other, an understanding between the two and respect for each other. According to me these are the important things in LOVE. But the most important and the backbone of true love is Trust. Trust is very important, for if you break the trust of that person, you have lost him/her forever. Without Trust many relations fail to work. In fact, nowadays many relations are built on the bases of lies, just lies, hidden and cunningly weaved and manipulated lies, just to cheat and take undue advantage of the other person. As our Sir said in class once, “May be that person lies to you because you haven’t given them the space and the freedom to tell you the truth and that person has a fear of losing you after telling you everything.” But then, nowadays there are pretenders who pose or try to pretend that they love, but they have some vested interest and hidden motives and as such pretend to show that they really love you. !

Did you know that the opposite of Love is Fear, not hate? This fear leads to insecurity that we have for the one we love. Due to this insecurity there is jealousy, possessiveness. And at times this is the reason for breaking up of many relations, as it breaks the heart of the person who believes you blindly. A beautiful Quote for this, “A bit of jealousy is good in a relationship, because it’s always nice to know that someone is afraid of losing you.” It is good but to a certain extent, because then excess of anything is bad. Too much jealously and possessiveness also irritates your partner.  

For me,

1. Love is sacrificing for the person I LOVE

2. The other person’s happiness is more important than mine and

3. Love is adjusting and compromising – of course to some extent.

I have noticed one thing in many relations - one person will sometimes love the other more, and at times will blindly love the other so much so, that all the wrongs and wrong-doings will also be over-looked. People nowadays meet someone and just fall in love, not realizing or understanding whether that relation is going to turn into a life-long relation or is it just something call infatuation. In olden days, it was said that, Love at first sight, was the real and true love.  But, nowadays, it is really very difficult to find this true love. Life has made things so complicated and deceive, that finding true love is like finding a needle in the haystack. And over and above this, even if you are lucky to find one, then it with the every-changing environment and such shrewd surroundings, it is going to be difficult to maintain this love. Of course, until and unless, the persons loving each other have really loved each other, without any expectations and conditions kept, by them and nowadays, kept by their families and relatives.      As rightly said, Relationships are the mirrors; they show us and bring up the true things about ourselves.

I have my own philosophy of love, which I like to follow most of the times and tell people around me also the same, “IF YOU HAD TO PICK SOMEONE FROM WHOM YOU LOVE & ONE WHO LOVES YOU, THEN,  PICK THE ONE WHO LOVES YOU AND NOT THE ONE WHOM YOU LOVE; BECAUSE YOU CAN LEARN TO LOVE SOMEONE, BUT YOUVCANNOT TEACH SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU BACK.” ISN’T IT ???

I know most of you will not agree with me on this. But then, Kabhi Kabhi Sab Uss (GOD) pe chod dena chahiye, kyoki Wo hi sab thik kar deta hai.

So friends, “DON’T BE DISAPPOINTED IF THE PERSON YOU LOVE, DOES NoT LOVE YOU BACK”...

BECAUSE GOD HAS SAID:

“THIS IS MY WORLD... STILL, EVEN I COULD NOT MAKE EVERY CREATION OF MINE, LOVE ME”... so what can mortal do !

"LOVE IS LIKE THE CLOUDS IN THE SKY. YOU CANNOT TOUCH THEM, BUT YOU CAN FEEL THEIR LOVE FOR YOU, WHEN THEY SHOWER UPON YOU UNLIMITED AND ENDLESSLY AND WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN.  SO IF YOU WANT TO LOVE, LOVE WITH YOUR HEART AND NOT WITH YOUR HEAD, WHICH THEN TRIES TO EXTENDS ITS FEELINGS THROUGH YOUR HANDS." L